Stuff you'll read online

You're going to search for this stuff, and you'll find things we don't teach. Here's our read on the ones you're most likely to hit.

We're not telling you what to do. We're telling you what's known, including where the answer is nobody knows.

Perineal blocking

You'll find this quickly if you search for orgasm without ejaculating. It's taught seriously, with decades of testimonials behind it.

The technique is pressing hard on the perineum during orgasm so semen doesn't come out.

Here's what its own advocates say it does: it redirects semen into the bladder. That has a medical name.

So it's deliberately inducing retrograde ejaculation.

Two things follow. The state itself isn't described as harmful, so we're not going to tell you it's dangerous. And it's a recognised cause of infertility, which is a fact absent from every enthusiastic thread we read about it.

We don't teach it and this method doesn't need it. The whole premise is that orgasm and ejaculation are already separable. Mechanical interference is solving a problem you don't have.

If fertility might matter to you at any point, that's worth knowing before you try something you found on a forum.

Numbing lubes

Interestingly, this is less common in these communities than we expected. Where it does come up, experienced men usually argue against it.

Poppers

Widely used. The claim is that they relax smooth muscle, which would include the sphincter you can't control voluntarily.

We're not going to pretend to assess the risks. That's a drug question, not a technique question, and it's outside what we can responsibly cover.

One exception, because it is well established and it kills people: poppers and erectile dysfunction medication do not go together. Both drop your blood pressure, and together they can drop it far enough to be dangerous. If you take anything for erections, or anything containing a nitrate, this is a doctor conversation before it is anything else.

What we'd say is narrower: anything that reduces sensation or your judgement makes the pain-means-stop rule harder to follow, and that rule is the one keeping you out of A&E.

Extreme abstinence

You'll find rules about weeks or months without ejaculating.

It's dogma, and the same communities contain men arguing it held them back. Some find a short break helps. Others find enforced abstinence makes them tense and preoccupied, which is the exact state that blocks everything.

Test it, don't obey it.

Very long sessions

Multi-hour sessions get reported, often admiringly.

Anything promising a shortcut

There isn't one. Not a toy, not a supplement, not a technique.

The consistent finding across everything we read is that the men who got somewhere did ordinary sessions for a long time and stopped chasing. That's a boring answer, which is exactly why so much of the internet sells you a better one.

How to judge anything else you find

Three questions:

Does it ask you to override pain? Then no, regardless of who's recommending it.

Does it require force? Then no. Angle and time solve what force doesn't.

Is it confident about something nobody has measured? Then treat it as one person's experience, which is what it is.